Updated: Mar 25, 2020
There are zillions of books on parenting, written in as many languages as they have existed in our world. One of the must-read books on these times happens to be The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired. Authored by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson, the book presents interesting stories, illustrations, tips and strategies on effective parenting.
As the title suggests, the book lays a great emphasis on the power of showing up for your kids. As Parents, you have to be there for them all the time, whether they need you or not. But what you actually do to show up matters a lot. You have to know the ways to show up and to what extent. The authors have categorized how a child needs to feel, which they call 4S - Safe, Seen, Soothed, and Secure.
In a quick snapshot, here's what it means to have a child feel:
1. Safe: Make your kids feel safe enough to take risks by showing that you are on their side
2. Seen: Pay attention to your child's communications and emotions to understand what and how are they feeling.
3. Soothed: Teach them how to take on life's challenges and setbacks.
4. Secure: Reinforce the security in your child by making her believe in you watching their back
A little give away from our side:
It is of utmost importance to be an active and genuine listener when you are with your kids. It is an inseparable part of Point#2 (Seen). By doing this, you not only know how your child is feeling or shaping up but you also get the answers on where and how to show for your child.
For more insights, you must read the book yourself.